I used to dream of marrying my girlfriend and growing old together, having a happy family. But every time something didn’t go the way she wanted, she got angry, and I bent myself down to save the relationship. During our fights, there was always something she wasn’t okay with me doing, so I apologized. Later, when she did the same thing, I asked her not to, as I also expected her to respect my feelings. But that turned into an argument.
I was ready to change for the better, but she was not willing to accept any point of improvement I mentioned to her. When she was enjoying time with her male friends, I would get ignored-even when I was sitting right beside her. It was very hurtful.
Once, for our anniversary, I traveled around 20 hours to her city. I wanted to stay longer, but she got angry and said I shouldn’t stay for more than three days. Ultimately, I stayed only for three days, and since she had plans to meet her friends on the third day, we had agreed to meet on the second day. I’d like to mention that her friends live in the same city, so they meet very often. I agreed to this but mentioned that I would still like to meet her as much as possible.
On the first morning of my visit, I asked if we could meet that day, but she said it wouldn’t be possible. I accepted that. However, in the evening, I found out she was out with some male friends whom I also knew. I was so happy to know that there was a possibility of meeting her that I didn’t complain. Instead, I put in every effort to meet her, even if just for a few seconds. But in the end, she was angry with me, saying that what I did-trying to meet her-was wrong. I was deeply hurt. I felt like I, my efforts, and my feelings meant nothing to her.
Even after that, I was ready to move past it, but she taunted me again, saying that her friends don’t request her time as much as I do and that it was her individuality. She wanted to spend her time as she wished. That was the moment I decided it was enough. I told her clearly: individuality does not mean treating your partner as worthless.
That day, we argued in anger, and I found out about even more lies she had told me-how she had planned a trip with her friends on the third day and had been trying to hide it from me. That’s why she wanted me to leave early. I’m done with her lies, planning, and conspiracies. I’ve started a new chapter now.
Question: Does individuality mean not caring about another person’s efforts and feelings at all?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No