So my ex (F23) and I (M25) met on Bumble (a dating app) seven months ago and started talking. After two weeks, we decided to meet in person and liked each other right away, so we exchanged numbers. Eventually, we started talking every day for hours and decided to be in a casual relationship because she didn’t want anything serious, having recently broken up with her ex after a 5-year serious relationship. This was going to be my first-ever relationship, so I agreed because I really wanted to be with her; I liked her from the moment we first met.
We started dating. As we lived nearby and worked in the same area (but at different companies), we used to hang out frequently and began having sex regularly. As we both enjoyed each other’s company, I started developing feelings for her, but I didn’t tell her. Months passed, and then she moved to another city for a new job. At first, we both missed each other a lot, so I decided to visit her in her new city. We spent two great days together, and then I returned to my city.
After a few days, she started acting weirdly and began ignoring me. When I asked her about it, she told me that we should stop talking because she was starting to develop feelings for me and her parents had begun looking for someone for her to marry. Those were the two reasons she gave me. I asked her to be in a serious relationship with me, as I was ready to marry her-I had been in love with her for a long time but had never told her. However, she said she couldn’t be in a serious relationship with me because she still had some feelings for her ex. She kept giving different reasons every time. So, I respected her decision, and eventually, we almost stopped talking, which broke my heart.
A few days later, I found out that she had started meeting her ex again because they were living in the same city. After learning this, I was really hurt because I was seriously in love with her, but it seemed like she just used me to get over her ex and then went back to him. It has been a month since we stopped talking, but it still haunts meevery day. I am unable to focus on anything, and sometimes I cry at night thinking about her. I know I also made a mistake by being in a casual relationship without considering the consequences. So, I’ve been thinking about this lately. Did she just use me for her own benefit and then leave me?
if it wasnt for her own benefit why wud she return to her ex again
she mightve tried to move on using u
bt as u have feelings for her
she too mightve had feelings for her
instead of having multiple sex meets with u,she still went back to him
so u wer just a diversion for her
better leave those feelings for her and move on with ur life. or else ull be the only one suffering