I am 24F. I entered a long-distance relationship in May 2023. Everything was fine. He seemed very mature. I don’t know how, but our bond grew stronger and stronger, and it felt like we had known each other for ages. When he came to meet me after three months, it was the best feeling to touch him, and it felt so safe. I had never felt that before. We connected both emotionally and physically.
But in October 2023, things started changing. He started taking me for granted. I thought maybe it was the distance that was making the relationship lose its spark. I kept begging him to come and meet me once more, but he kept refusing, and I wasn’t financially stable enough to spend money and go meet him.
Things started getting worse and worse. He kept breaking up and patching things up-and so did I. In August 2024, he confessed that he cheated on me, but my dumbass thought maybe it was his parents forcing him to get married-after all, he is 29 now. But after confessing this, 20 days later, he texted me and said, “We can be friends. Don’t ignore my messages.” Slowly, he started video calling me again. The love was once again on track, and somewhere, I felt hope rising again-that maybe he still loved me.
But in November 2024, he started taking me for granted again. Then, in December 2024, he confessed everything-that he had been cheating on me since September 2023 and that now he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend in January 2025. I felt devastated. I didn’t know how many times I had been played during this time, and my only fault was that I trusted him.
I contacted his new girlfriend, and to my surprise, she knew everything. She knew I was in the picture, she knew she was dating a man who was already in a relationship, and she said I was the one who was wrong-that I should have stepped back. She said I was blind in love. She said I gave him trauma.
All I wanted from him was love and care, so how was I wrong in this? I trusted him because trust is the first step in a relationship. She said, “Why did you date a stranger?” She didn’t acknowledge that they both did something wrong to me. She validated his double dating.
They are both happy in their lives, and I, the victim here, cry every single day because, after all this, I still can’t lie to myself a part of me still loves him. I genuinely loved him. ~ Anonymous
Question:
I know I was wrong on so many levels. Amla
bad human?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No
if u wer a bad human. u could’ve played him too like lots of others do these days.
a guy with another girl using u
a guy who knows Everything about this
and here u are crying and thinking abt such people.
leave the past and focus on ur career
ull get a good one
next time u better keep things in mind before selecting someone