I am 42 years old male and married since last 16 years. Professionally, I am considered highly successful, currently holding a senior bureaucratic position (member of a prestigious civil services). Married since such a long time but leading almost a sexless life. The chemistry is gone now, we are living together, visibly happy, but it is actually not working. Yes, we should talk about it but the ice has grown very thick now. We are literally not making out.
At times, I take resort to various dating apps to satisfy the unmet needs but it is frustrating and eventually unsatisfying. Given the honour and prestige associated with my position, I can only pursue these desires secretly which ultimately makes the whole experience burdensome.
Frustrating situation.