She was my relative, but we didn’t know each other until my sister married her brother. She observed and became interested in me during the wedding. Later, she found my mobile number in her brother’s phone and used it to text me, starting a conversation.
I come from a lower-middle-class family and have always been a very reserved person since childhood. I never talked to girls during my school or college days because I was focused on my career and feared entering a relationship that might not lead to marriage, which I believed would cause trauma in my life. I secured a government job at the age of 23 and settled into my life.
In 2022, she came into my life, showing a lot of interest in me through chatting and phone calls. It was a very nice and new feeling for me, as I had never talked to any girl before. I slowly became attracted to her because of the way she talked to me.
One month later, she proposed to me. I clearly told her that I was not interested in love and had no such intentions, but I agreed to a promise of marriage before entering into a relationship. I thought our parents would also agree since we are from the same family, and I believed I couldn’t find such a caring and loving person in my life. She agreed to my marriage proposal, and we were in a relationship for a few months.
During this time, she showed a lot of interest, love, and care towards me, and I became deeply attached to her. I couldn’t stay without talking to her. However, after realizing this, she slowly lost interest in me and began avoiding me. One day, I caught her talking to another guy for hours. I confronted her, and she told me that she had been in a relationship with another guy for three years and had broken up with him two months before entering our relationship. I was deeply hurt but told her that the past was the past and asked her not to talk to other guys from now on.
She promised, but her actions changed, showing less interest and ignoring me. She started behaving immaturely. I became very possessive of her. Her actions made me overthink and doubt her. I felt like she only belonged to me. When I confessed my doubts to her, she avoided clarifying, which made things even more painful for me. This continued for a few months, and my over-possessiveness made her feel like the relationship was toxic.
I helped her a lot in her job search preparations. After she got a job, she completely avoided me, blocked me everywhere, and broke up with me. It has been three years, but the trauma still hasn’t left me. I’ve seen her a few times over these years because we are from the same family. My heart still wants her, as I believe in only one love and one marriage in my life. I am not interested in marrying any other girl.
At present, we are in different professions-l am a government employee in a village, and she is a software developer at a company. I thought she might change her behavior after marriage, and we could live a happy married life together.