This is a long story, so a little patience is appreciated. I met a girl in 2021 at work after completing my MBA. She was 23, and I was 26. Both of us were management trainees and joined the same team. Initially, due to COVID, we worked from home and frequently connected on WhatsApp and calls. A few weeks later, we were called to the Delhi office, where I saw her for the first time and instantly felt butterflies. She was beautiful, sincere, great to talk to, and very intelligent. We used to have lunch together and sometimes hung out after work. Over time, I got attached to her, but I never confessed my feelings because I was focused on pursuing a master’s as I wanted to do a PhD abroad.
We were soon posted to Mumbai, and after four months, I left the company. Despite leaving, we remained good friends, frequently texting, sharing memes, and calling each other. During my two years of study, I constantly thought about her and planned to confess my feelings after completing my studies. I had taken a huge risk of leaving a stable job and going back to college, and I didn’t want any distractions. Last year, on my birthday in September, I finally told her how I felt. To my surprise, she responded positively, and I asked her out on a date, which she spontaneously agreed to. However, a week later, she canceled, saying she only saw me as a friend.
I was upset but still visited her in Mumbai on September 29th. We spent a whole day together, had a great time, and I told her I respected her point of view. I understood that with us being in different cities and my career path, dating wasn’t possible. She mentioned she hadn’t dated anyone before due to trust issues and fear of guys and had no plans to do so in the future. I only asked her to keep in touch and go with the flow, as my feelings were now clear.
I was thrilled to have met her, so when I returned to Delhi, I wrote her a heartfelt handwritten letter expressing my gratitude for having her in my life. However, when she received it, she accused me of copying it from ChatGPT. Though I was upset, I tried to stay positive.
The last time we spoke was on October 13th, and we were laughing and having a good time. The next day, at my friend’s bachelor party, I tried to video call her, but I realized she had blocked me on WhatsApp and Instagram. This devastated me, and I spent the night crying alone. I tried to reach out to her on another number, but she didn’t pick up. When she finally replied on WhatsApp, she said, “Itne kya voice notes bhej rha hai? Who has time in the world to listen to voice notes?” and added that there was no compatibility because I was “boring.” Two years of good friendship had suddenly vanished.
I reached out to her after a month, hoping for closure, but she shouted at me, accusing me of being fake and a liar. She said, “Tu bas baaten banata hai aur jhoot bolta hai.” I was heartbroken. We spoke again in December, and she downplayed everything, saying, “Kuch bhi toh nai hua hai yaar, itna overthink mat kar… sab theek hai. Mai toh unn sab baato ke baare mei soch bhi nai rhi.” When I asked her to unblock me, she refused.
In January, she surprised me by calling from the number I was blocked on. We had a normal conversation, but she still kept me blocked on WhatsApp and Instagram. Whenever I tried to bring up the issue, she said, “Purani baaten mat kar.” I continued to send her messages throughout the month, trying to make things right, but she didn’t respond.
On February 5th, she revealed on a call that she was seeing someone, which shocked me, considering her previous trust issues and fear of guys. She said that the guy works in another company but in the same corporate tower where she works. After that, she unblocked me on WhatsApp but claimed to have deleted her Instagram account, which wasn’t true. I cried a lot after that call and didn’t sleep the whole night. The next day, I rushed to a hospital as I was having panic attacks.
We stayed in touch until last month (July), but her hot-and-cold behavior took a toll on my mental health. I finally sent her a goodbye message, saying I couldn’t continue trying to be friends when she didn’t care. She blocked me again after that.
This experience has deeply affected me, and I find it hard to trust anyone now. I’ve cried countless times over the past year, and my mental health has suffered. Every day, I think about her enjoying her life with her new boyfriend, knowing I probably never cross her mind. How can I let her go from my mind?
letting her go from ur mind would good for u and ur health. why cry for someone who doesn’t even care about u or ur feelings. she has someone in her life. she would know how u feel when the same thing happens to her.
losing trust on everyone after a single person played with u isn’t correct. world isn’t small. u might get someone better who will understand ur feelings.
do not lose hope
moveon and focus on ur career. who knows u might be more successful than the guy she is seeing
Bro never ever run behind money and girls they will surely ruin your life girls are very good at playing these kind of tricks they are very good at using guys and blocking them and making them go mad please go and visit a good Ayurvedic doctor and come out of your mental and physical illness focus on yourself and your parents and change yourself for your parents and your own good and transform yourself into a very good human being and this transformation of yours will surely make her repent for what she has done to you and even block her off
You met a girl at work in 2021 and developed a close friendship. Despite being deeply attached to her, you focused on your studies before confessing your feelings last year. She initially responded positively but later said she only saw you as a friend. After a heartfelt day spent together, you continued to stay in touch, but her mixed signals and eventual blocking on social media left you heartbroken. Her revelation of seeing someone else further devastated you, leading to severe emotional distress. Despite your efforts to reconnect, her hot-and-cold behavior and accusations took a toll on your mental health, making it hard to trust anyone now.
To let her go, prioritize your mental well-being, seek support from friends or a therapist, and focus on self-care and healing. Allow yourself time to process and gradually move forward.