Confession of MBBS Student

Hi! I am a 27-year-old male who has completed my MBBS and internship. Now, I am preparing for my PG exams.

There is a girl-a family relative and friend-who was in a relationship with one of my friends during our MBBS days for three years. During our internship, she entered another relationship with a colleague, and she was quite serious about it. They wanted to get married and would often take duties together, including night shifts. However, in the last month of our internship, she discovered that he was already engaged and had been deceiving her.

When my parents asked if I liked any girl, I told them I was relying on them to arrange a meeting or give me options. Since our families were close, they suggested the possibility of us settling together. At first, I was reluctant, but after speaking with her, I eventually agreed on December 1, 2024.

At that time, she had broken up with her ex, but they were still working together, talking, and spending time in the hospital despite her having agreed to this proposal. We went out for dinner, had a good conversation, and things seemed fine. A few days later, I asked her to stop talking to her ex. She initially agreed, but the next day, a friend told me she was sitting with him again in the canteen. I messaged her, asking if she truly wanted to move forward, or if she preferred that I call off the marriage citing my own reasons so that no one would question her. She apologized, and I gave her a second chance.

Once we returned home, she started questioning why our parents had fixed this marriage and cried for days. I asked her if she wanted to end it, assuring her we could do so on a good note. But she said, “No, I want to continue this.” I promised to support and care for her no matter what. However, she now says she wants to take at least six more months, until after the PG exam, to see if she develops feelings for me. If she doesn’t, she wants to tell our parents that things didn’t work out for both of us.

Now I feel like I can’t keep investing my emotions indefinitely without knowing where this is going. She seems uncertain about where she truly stands.~ Anonymous

Question: What would be better to do?

Option 1: Wait for her to develop feelings

Option 2: Confront her again about her uncertainty

Option 3: Involve parents as it is arranged