We got engaged 7 months back. Had a wonderful time. We were both deeply in love, we used to talk a lot. Slowly, my priorities changed previously, it was work, but afterward, it became her. It’s a long distance relationship; we hardly met once a month or sometimes not at all. I was her backbone whenever she fell, I used to pick her up, motivate her, and support her. She had a business in Nagpur and I used to stay in Surat.
I didn’t want her to shift as she wasn’t mentally ready to relocate her business, so I decided to change my company if I didn’t get a transfer and move to Nagpur. For me, she was the first priority. Her happiness was my only priority. One day we met, and I saw her account statement. I found out she was in big debt and had taken a loan at 20% interest to start her business.
I told her to borrow some money and clear it out, but she denied it for 4 days. Afterwards, I convinced her and said, “Pay me the interest instead,” so I just cleared her loan. She was suffering losses in her business, so one day I asked, “How do you manage the money?” She told me she was using credit cards and used to roll over from different cards. This way, the amount kept increasing every time. The amount had reached six figures in rupees.
I thought it was very risky, so I also cleared that amount and told her, “Whenever there’s a loss, don’t use this method. Instead, I will help you out.” Everything was going good, but one day she was traveling to Somnath, so I said, “I will join you.” She said, “No, I am going with my friends,” so I said okay. Then at the last moment, her friends canceled. I asked her, “Should I join now?” She said, “No, I want to spend time by myself.”
I tried to convince her, but she denied it. Even then, I booked tickets, thinking she might change her mind. The next day she started her journey and told me, “I am afraid and should have contacted you to come.” After hearing that, I thought I’d surprise her, so I also left for the journey. I waited at Ahmedabad station for her with breakfast for 5 hours for her train. Then as I entered and sat near her, she became very angry, went to the bathroom, cried there, and came back without saying anything.
That was the worst day of my life. She was very angry, and anyhow, I apologized and spent the whole day convincing her. Somehow, that day was terrible for me. I thought I shouldn’t have come. Then after a week, she told me, “I should have never said yes to the engagement.” I felt like, what the fuck is this? But I didn’t say anything to her. Then after 15 days, we had a fight it got worse. I expressed to her how bad I felt that day in Somnath…
Then I apologized for getting angry. Two days later, she wanted to go alone to Mahakal. I didn’t join as she asked for space. Then after a week, she said, “I am closing the business. It’s not working out,” and she had already decided this during Mahakal. But after visiting Mahakal, she rarely talked to me. One month has already passed. I am giving so much effort, but no results. We hardly had any conversations.
I thought maybe it’s due to the business shutdown, so I asked how I could help. She only says, “I need some space and time.” I gave her space, and many times I told her, “It’s okay, we will do something else together if you want, or else you can do something on your own. We’ll find some other business for you, or you can take a break. It’s up to you.” But we hardly had any conversations only 10 minutes a day, and that too was one sided. We only talked about where to settle in Nagpur, that’s it.
One day I got a call from my boss, and he said, “You are getting a transfer to Nagpur within two months.” I was so happy, so I called her first and gave her the news. She was like, “Okay, good,” that’s it no reaction. So I said, “You might be busy, I’ll call you later.” I felt very bad. Then I tried to talk, but she never shared what she was feeling. She only said, “You don’t understand me.” I told her, “Explain it to me, just talk to me.” But she never did.
She only said, “You care too much,” and brought up the Somnath trip again. Then she said, “I don’t have feelings for you.” I was blank. I said, “Okay, let’s meet.” She said, “No, give me space.” Okay, I gave her space again. We hardly talked in a day. Then after 1 month, I shifted to Nagpur. I told her, “Let’s meet because we haven’t met in the last 3 months.” She said, “No.” Then after 3 days, she said, “I don’t want to continue. There’s no future staying together.”
Reasons:
1. She doesn’t have any feelings for me.
2. I love her too much.
3.I over care about her health.
4. The Somnath incident.
And other reasons, but they were senseless. I begged her, I cried in front of her, “Please don’t do this to me.” I asked for one more chance, said I won’t repeat it again, and told her to think about our parents because they are involved too, but she said, “No, I don’t want to continue.” I am trying and trying, but the same answer is “No”. Though her parents are now trying to convince her, I’ve accepted her decision. I cannot force her to marry me. I’ve lost my love, and in return, I am left with depression.
Question: If a girl is loved too much, does she lose interest?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No