I Dated 8 Years Younger Girl And Got Into Trouble

I am an unmarried 40 years old guy, working as a marketing analyst. Six months ago, I saw a girl on Bumble. She is a divorcee working in IT. I thought about connecting with her. Initially, I only wanted to be friends. We had an 8 years age difference.

Slowly, we started sharing everything. Our likes and dislikes-so we both started liking each other. Then she said, “Let’s take the conversation to Telegram” because of some security concerns.

We talked via Telegram calls and chats, and then we started having late-night conversations. I asked about her past, and she told me she got married at the age of 18, had a baby, and now he is 14 years old. Her husband was a psycho who tortured her a lot. When she told me these things, I felt pity for her.

I am naturally a caring person, and when I heard this, I decided to care for her a lot and never hurt her. When I asked her personal things, she said she would tell me later. Then, I slowly started developing feelings for her, but I didn’t tell her. One day, I said something about my future wife, and she immediately said she was possessive of me.

So, I told her that I also had feelings for her, and then we started talking very closely. At one point, she didn’t want to get too close. She said there were some complications and that she couldn’t marry me. Then, after a few days, she told me she needed a break and would come back after a week. So, I waited for her, but she didn’t return.

Then, I used another number to send a message on Telegram. We started talking again and became close. She called me *Paapu*. When I asked why, she said it was like a fantasy. Sometimes, she told me she saw me as her husband, but when I asked her about it, she said it was just a fantasy.

That’s when I realized she didn’t want to marry me, but she was treating me like her husband virtually. To get clarity, I asked for a direct meeting. So, we met. In the morning, she told me she had complications and couldn’t marry me.

So, I made up my mind to move on. But in the evening, she started getting close to me. We went to the beach, she sat close to me, and she lay on my shoulder. Then we left. I was confused-why did she talk about complications in the morning but then get so close in the evening?

The next day, I asked her about it. She said she did it for my happiness and told me not to take it seriously. So, I told her that the next time we met, we shouldn’t be that close. Hearing this, she said she needed a break. Slowly, she started avoiding me, but I didn’t realize it.

On Hug Day, I messaged her. She got angry and said she didn’t want to talk to me. She told me that if I sent another message, she would complain to the police. So, I stopped. I realized she had an unstable mind. But I don’t know why she suddenly started hating me so much. I deserved a better closure, but she cut all communication via Telegram and phone.

I don’t know what to do. Should I move on, or should I find another way to convince her? Please suggest.

Question: What should I do?

Option 1: Should I move on?

Option 2: Should I contact her and convince her?