I had a 5 years long relationship. We never cheated on each other. Since 2019, we fell in love-it felt like a dream to me because we were working together and didn’t match on any dating apps. Everything was good until 2022. After that, in 2023, we stopped talking to each other for days and months, but we kept coming back again and again, afraid of losing each other. We respected each other.
We had already decided on marriage, but every time both families started talking, something unintentionally happened, and we stopped talking. My family was totally convinced that I would only marry her. That was the truth.
In 2024, she informed me that her family was looking for another guy. At that time, I had no feelings for her, but we still talked daily. Somehow, she convinced me to call her parents to ask for her hand in marriage. So, I called her brother and mother and begged them to let us marry. Both families accepted again, and this time, everything seemed fine. By July 2024, dates were finalized, Kundli matching was done, and a lawn was almost booked for the engagement.
One day, I called her and asked her to go to my home alone to check if everything was fine, as my CCTV had stopped working online. My family wasn’t there. She refused-I don’t know why. I convinced her and begged her to visit my home once since nobody was there. But this time, self-doubt crept into my mind about her. Somehow, we stopped talking again and waited for each other to come back.
In September and October, I started posting Instagram stories hinting at a comeback. In November 2024, she wished me on my birthday, and I replied immediately, but nothing happened. Then, on December 2, 2024, without informing me, she had her *roka* with another guy. Two days later, she just posted “Take Care,” but I didn’t understand what it meant at the time.
She got engaged on December 15, 2024, and after two days, she posted a story about it. That was when I realized the meaning of “Take Care.” I met her, called her, and texted her, trying to convince her not to go through with the arranged marriage. But she said, “I can’t come back now, and you shouldn’t talk to me.”
I told her, “I thought you would come back to me because you never visited my home.” She replied, “I did what I felt was right at that time. You weren’t talking to me, and I was waiting for you. I put in 101% effort to come back again.”
She stopped talking to me but didn’t want to block me. She doesn’t reply, but she reads my texts. ~ Anonymous
Question: What should I do now?
Option 1: I should wait for God’s plan.
Option 2: Focus on my career.