I am a 24 years old female working in a corporate job. During my last job as an intern, I fell in love with a colleague who was also an intern at the same company. He is now 29 years old. We were best friends during our 6-month internship. After six months of knowing each other and being best friends, he proposed to me, expressing his deep love. Initially, I was scared because I am a Muslim, and he belongs to a Hindu Brahmin family. But he convinced me with his love and care that we would fight for our families’ acceptance. Slowly, I fell for him even harder, and we started a long-distance relationship.
We both moved on to different jobs, and he lived in a different city. We frequently argued about him moving to my city so that we could convince my parents. One day, during an argument, I said some harsh things in anger, which I didn’t mean, and I apologized for it. But he came to meet me and told me it was over, although he wanted us to remain friends. I agreed, but it was always more than friendship; we continued to talk like a couple. After this event, whenever we argued, he would threaten to leave me and block me. I became very scared of this and agreed to whatever he said.
In the meantime, he demanded we become physically close to check our compatibility. However, I had told him from the beginning that I didn’t want a physical relationship before marriage. It felt like he wanted to test me, and I told him we weren’t even committed, so it wasn’t appropriate to ask for such things. He said that seeing my support during his job loss made him sure about me, but he didn’t inform me. During this time, he also revealed that he had lied about the job he was doing in the city, fearing he might lose me. I was heartbroken because I was trying to find jobs for him in my city, not knowing he was already working in a different domain that was easily available here.
For the past 8 months, we’ve been fighting over these issues, and his physical demands have manipulated me. Now, he’s told me he’s not sure about me and keeps blocking and unblocking me. Now, he’s told me he’s not sure about me and keeps blocking and unblocking me. I’m tired of this cycle, and I’ve been suffering from severe anxiety and weight loss for the past year. While I am financially independent, I am so emotionally dependent on him that, despite everything, I still fear I’ll never find another bond like this, even though it is toxic. I really want him, but he does not want me.
sorry to say this,but u really might be a fool. u want a person who doesn’t want u. wants u physically,but doesn’t need a relation. blocks and unblocks playing with ur mental health. u can take care of urself.why do u need such person in ur life.
if the situation remains same, u might even agree to get physical with him in the fear of losing him. and after ur used for his physical needs he might start blocking u and eventually leave u.
what will u do at that time?
u will have more guilt and have many thoughts which will ruin ur life.
if he is sure about not wanting u, u too better make him sure that u can live happily without him.
don’t ruin ur life. he isn’t a rare gem to think, if lost cannot be found. u can find a better guy who will show the same efforts u show.
think properly and make a decision.
You fell in love with a colleague during an internship despite religious differences. After starting a long-distance relationship, you faced arguments about him moving to your city. He ended the relationship but continued to act like a couple, causing you emotional distress. He demanded physical intimacy, which you were uncomfortable with, and lied about his job, further breaking your trust. Over the past eight months, his manipulative behavior has caused you severe anxiety and weight loss. Although you’re financially independent, you’re emotionally dependent on him, and despite recognizing the relationship as toxic, you fear not finding another bond like this.
It’s important to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being and seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to navigate this difficult period.