During my internship, I came across my senior manager, who was around 28 and held the highest designation. I was just an intern at the time. Over the course of our interactions, we became good friends and eventually developed a deep connection. I felt I could finally trust someone, as I had never dated anyone before, and my trust in friends had always been broken. Over the years, our bond grew extremely strong. He often told me I meant the world to him, but he would also steer our chats towards intimate or sexual topics, indirectly or directly sexting.
When I was out of town on a project, he suddenly told me he was getting married. I cried all night as he mentioned the marriage wasn’t in his hands and was happening due to his parents wishes. I eventually took time to let it go. A few months later, he reached out, asking how I was doing, and confessed he wasn’t happy about his marriage.
After his marriage, he repeatedly tried to steer our chats toward sexting again. However, I took a stand and told him no, as I couldn’t let him betray the woman he married. I clearly told him it was wrong, but he insisted that I was his “comfort zone” and had a “special place” in his heart. Each time I avoided these conversations and stood firm, he accused me of having changed.
As a woman, I have maintained my stance to not let our conversations turn sexual because I cannot be the reason for betraying another woman. Yes, I do love him, but I can’t bring myself to hurt his wife, even though I don’t know her. If I were in her place, I’d be devastated to learn such a truth about my husband. Despite the issues in their marriage and him claiming he hasn’t been intimate with her, I cannot justify being a part of this betrayal.
At this point, I’m torn and unsure if I am doing the right thing. He tells me he doesn’t trust other men around me because, as a man, he knows how men think. But can he even call himself a man if he’s betraying his wife like this?
Question: Am I at fault because I loved him before he was married and he reciprocated the same?
1. Is he to be trusted, or has he used me?
2. How would you define this guy?
3. Did he love me or simply use me?
4. What am I supposed to do? Please guide me
u made the right decision of not letting him betray another women. when he speaks of other men around u, he has become the same around u and also his wife. stay strong and do not let him come near u.