Confession of Girl Meeting Her Boss In Software Company

I’m 25 years female, and I met him two years ago at our workplace, where he held a higher position than me. He’s seven years older than I am. When we met, I just saw him as my senior and showed him respect, nothing more. He was the one who initiated conversations, mostly under the guise of discussing work or projects. He presented himself as very religious and kind-hearted, which only made me respect him more.

At the time, I was still struggling with heartbreak after a breakup, so I was vulnerable. One day, I messaged him about some work details, and after that, he started messaging me regularly with little caring remarks. I admired this quality in him. He seemed genuinely interested in me and, with every message, every comment on my clothing or appearance, I felt he was showing his love.

Within a month, I had fallen for his seemingly caring and kind nature. But after two or three months, things started changing. He began asking for physical intimacy, which I wasn’t comfortable with. I grew up believing in values where physical relations before marriage are unacceptable, but I was also scared of losing him. So, I tried stretching out the topic, avoiding it as best I could.

After six months of questioning him about his family and past, I learned that he had been in three or four previous relationships. When I asked why those relationships ended, he admitted that those women wanted commitment, but he didn’t, so he left them. Over the year, I discovered even more shocking things-that he had cheated on me five or six times, all while I had blindly trusted him, not checking his social media or other details.

By then, I was heartbroken and shattered. Each time I confronted him, he’d come up with excuses. And by now, I had earned a promotion-not through his help, but through my hard work. I knew I wanted to end things with him. But here’s the catch: we’re working on a major project together, one that could change my entire career.

If I break up with him, I’m almost certain he’ll try to ruin things for me at work, manipulate people, and make my life miserable. But I can’t keep stretching this topic of intimacy from my side, nor can I betray my values by giving in to something I’m not comfortable with.

So, here I am, torn between my career and my character, stuck in a relationship I can’t stand anymore, yet afraid of the consequences if I end it.