I’m 34m, loves 33 f divorcee colleague. Initial days, love ws tremendous between us. Though I was raised orthodox, I didn’t have any problem that she ws already married. Since I ws virgin, only after our physical, I felt the diff.. I suffrd a lot mentally since I ws brought up in a stereotypical Brahmin fmly.
But in due course of tym, I changed myself and my mindset for her. I belived she’s my true love and she Il be the one! But, after months, she went out to many places with her sr.friends alone. I just warned her not to, as many ppl started badmouthing her character in office. I had no doubts about her, i firmly believed her, so I just ly wrned her about what people started saying about her that she went out with males for office favours.
We usually discuss because I trust in her, I told what PPL saying about her. But in turn, to my shock, she gaslighted me to higher ups that I ws gossiping about her. For the 1st tym in ma lyf, I cried coz of her and asked god tha what wrong I did?! My intention ws to protect her reputation. That’s all. But in turn I got my image tampered. I didn’t talk to her then.
Then she came back after 2 days and told sorry to me and said that she gaslighted me involuntarily due to office pressure. I forgave her after a week. I already felt little insecure about going her with particularly those male seniors bcoz they had used few women for their wants, I’ve heard about them. That’s why I insisted not to go lonely. But she gaslighted me. First time she didn’t say about going with them, I warned her.
She said she won’t go. Then three four times she had gone without my knowledge and she hid it from me. Other office colleagues told me that she is going out with them. So she lied, she hid the fact. Once is warning, next time it’s lesson for me… These things I felt insecure and started losing trust. Then adding insult to injury, after several months, an office colleague whom she was in touch before our relationship from other region msged her thru insta to keep her pvt part clean and healthy, though he’s not in her chats.
Just like that he’s messging her. When I saw that MSG, she immediately went to toilet with her phone and then he msgs back ‘sorry wrongly sent’. Am I joke to her? Who will believe this kinda girl? I lost trust, faith in her completely and I moved on. I think I took right decision for both of us. The pity thing is I very first time in my lyf fought my sick parents for her. Now I’m ashamed to face them.