I still remember the day my life took an unexpected turn. A colleague who had resigned from our office reached out to me, and we started a romantic relationship. We were together for 1.9 years, and I was head over heels in love with him. I still love him to the core. We had planned so much about our future. But there were some hurdles.
The Unreasonable Demands:
Whenever I brought up the topic of introducing him to my parents or discussing our future, he would become evasive. He laid down some harsh conditions for our marriage, insisting that I bring 1 kg of gold, give him a 50% share in my family’s properties, and contribute 30 lakhs+ for wedding expenses. If I couldn’t fulfill these demands, he made it clear that we wouldn’t get married, and I would have to stay in a relationship without any formal commitment, while he would marry someone of his parents’ choice.
I was so deeply in love with him that I agreed to his terms, hoping that our relationship would eventually work out and my parents might agree to give, and I would work day and night to earn all that. I used to work overtime to save money and ate very little.
The Family Alliance:
Meanwhile, my parents started looking for potential grooms for me, unaware of my relationship. When they brought home a potential match, I felt uncomfortable and anxious, as my mind and heart were completely filled with my boyfriend. I knew I had to reveal my relationship to them, so I gathered the courage to tell them everything. To my surprise, they were not very understanding, and they were firm in their decision. They told me that if I chose to marry my boyfriend, they would disown me and cut all ties.
The Harsh Reality:
This ultimatum made me realize that my boyfriend’s expectations were not something I would be able to fulfill in my life. If I couldn’t meet his demands, it was better for me to end the relationship. I thought that if another girl could fulfill his expectations, he should be with her, not me. My parents took control of my phone and interactions, and when my boyfriend came to visit, they scolded him. He tried to contact me, but I remained silent.
The Sudden Silence:
After three days of silence, he disappeared from my life. I tried to reach out to him, but his friends responded rudely, claiming that he was dead. Through mutual friends, I discovered that he was alive but struggling with depression. I couldn’t understand why someone who used to call and text me every day would suddenly go silent.
Despite the uncertainty, I’m still holding onto the hope that he might return to me one day. If not, I don’t know what to do. I miss him like anything, but I can’t do anything. I always thought about his happiness, but now I’m thinking.
“What about my happiness?”
“How can I move on?”
“He might be happy with his new girl, but what about me?”
“Will she be able to give him all he wanted?”
“Probably she’s very pretty. He might not have kept all those conditions?”
I have completely lost myself.