We met through work, and over time, we became close talking every day, sitting beside each other, sharing parts of our lives. She would find reasons to stay connected, message me often, call me, send reels, and remember every small thing about me. Slowly, I started falling for her. At one point, she told me she was “incapable of love” and unsure if she could ever be in a relationship. Despite her words, her actions gave me hope. The way we connected emotionally, mentally, even physically sometimes, made me believe that maybe, someday, we could be something more.
Eventually, I confessed my feelings. She said she wanted to stay just friends, that she wasn’t ready for anything more, and that I shouldn’t expect anything. But even after that, she kept giving mixed signals sometimes pulling me close, sometimes pushing me away. She kept me confused, stuck somewhere between being just a friend and feeling like more. What hurt even deeper was seeing her talk and go out with so many other guys so easily, while I stayed loyal, consistent, and always available. I never wanted to control her life, but seeing how easily she gave her time and attention to others, while keeping me in a confused space, shattered me.
And the worst part? I started noticing things. She lied to me. I found out through her logs that she’d been talking, chatting, and calling another guy behind my back while pretending everything was normal between us. Seeing those chats and calls broke me in ways I can’t even describe. It felt like I was living a lie while she had already moved on without even telling me. I realized then I was just an option, a convenience, someone to lean on when needed, but never someone she truly chose. She kept me around for comfort but never for love.
As much as it hurts, I’m walking away emotionally now. I deserve someone who doesn’t lie, who doesn’t keep me hanging, who chooses me openly not someone who keeps me as a backup while chasing others. I still wish her well, but I’ll never forget how much this broke me inside.
Question: After hearing my full story, do you think I should completely move on from her?
Option 1: Yes, you deserve better
Option 2: Cut off completely for your own peace
Option 3: Stay friends but keep distance