We’ve been friends online with a guy I met on a dating app. Let’s call him A. He’s 29, I’m 30, and we talk daily over video calls. When we first connected, we both agreed we were looking for friendship, and we bonded deeply over that. A has had a difficult past, having lost both of his parents, and, like me, he doesn’t have many people to share his happiness or sadness with.
Over time, we became each other’s closest confidants. From the beginning, I developed feelings for him-even before seeing his photo-but I never confessed, fearing it might ruin our friendship. Then, three months into our conversations, another guy (let’s call him B) proposed to me online, and I accepted. After a month, I told A about B, and he immediately saw through him. He warned me that B was a pathological liar, and he turned out to be right.
After this incident, A mentioned that he went for coffee with a girl, but the date lasted only ten minutes because she kept talking about her exes. I never asked if he liked me, and I still hesitate because I’m afraid of rejection or of losing what we have.
Lately, I’ve been feeling even more confused. A makes daily video calls, and I can’t bring myself to stop talking to him either. He insists that I shouldn’t cut my hair and jokingly says he won’t talk to me if I do. He’s mentioned that he wants a girlfriend like me but with the ability to speak a particular language he likes. He also says that if I ever get a boyfriend, I should let him know that I have a close friend, which is A.
Sometimes, he jokingly tells me that I won’t be able to get rid of him so easily. Although he says these things in a playful manner, I can’t help but wonder if he has feelings for me. I love him, but I don’t know if he will ever accept me as more than a friend.
He doesn’t have a job right now because he was taking care of his parents when they were sick, and it led to him losing his job. So, he is trying for jobs now by studying new courses, and the year gaps which occurred because of his parents’ sickness show as no experience whenever he applies for a job. Is it because he doesn’t have a job that he is hesitant to say he loves me? Or is it because he just wants somebody to talk to?
Question: Is he interested in me and not saying it?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No
Hi Sheela,
If you feel connection for him, please take a step and ask. Something good or bad only happens if you ask him.
If it doesn’t work atleast you will have idea that it won’t work so you won’t get hurt further going in your life regarding him.
Please excuse me if I said anything incorrectly.