I’m a 27 years old woman currently pursuing my master’s degree in Germany. About a year ago, I met this guy in the same course, and we were grouped together for a project. We clicked as friends instantly, and three months ago, we started dating. He’s tall, fit, and handsome, and he treats me like a princess-attentive, thoughtful, and always looking out for me.
One evening, as we were sharing more about ourselves, he revealed something unexpected: he’s 29 and has never been in a relationship before. I could see a touch of hesitation in his eyes as he shared that he’s still a virgin, explaining that he’d never met anyone who made him feel a genuine connection until now. He went quiet for a moment, searching my face for any sign of judgment or disappointment.
I could see the vulnerability in his expression, as if he feared that his honesty might change something between us. I felt a wave of confusion. Part of me couldn’t help but think it was unusual for someone his age, and I asked him why. He answered softly, saying he wanted something real, and for him, it never happened until now. His words should have reassured me, but instead, they only added to my uncertainty.
Since then, I find myself wondering: should I stay in this relationship, letting things unfold with him, or find someone who’s more experienced, someone who might already know what they want? As these thoughts swirl around, I can’t help but remember the hurt I saw flicker in his eyes when I questioned him, as though he feared he might not be “enough” for me.