My parents arranged a match for me, and I agreed, mostly out of respect for them. Till the engagement, she seemed alright, but I was never truly attracted to her. I live abroad, and she’s from India, working as a junior dentist. The first time we actually met was for our engagement. I went to India for just three days, and then I had to fly back because of work. We barely spoke before the engagement, thanks to the time difference and my work hours.
But soon after the engagement, her behavior started changing. Whenever I’d go out with friends, she’d call to “check” if I was really with them. Even if I told her I was busy, she’d still call, and if I didn’t answer, it would turn into a massive fight with her accusing me of cheating. It got so bad that once, when I went to a movie alone, she video-called me inside the theater, demanding I show her my surroundings just to make sure I was really alone. It’s gotten to a point where she’s affecting my mental health. By the way, her last wedding got called off two weeks before the date-she claimed the guy was “a psychopath and toxic.”
About a month after our engagement, her dad pressured my parents to get us legally registered so we could apply for her visa sooner. They convinced my parents, who then emotionally blackmailed me into it. So, I went along with it. Now, she’s always calling and controlling, even forcing me to save her name as “wifeyyyyâ on my phone. Recently, I found out she’s been stalking my ex on social media, watching every single one of her stories.
One day, out of nowhere, she accused me of secretly talking to my ex, just because she saw a “male hand” in one of my ex’s stories! I kept explaining it wasn’t me, but she never listened and created a huge scene in front of both our families. Later, she realized it wasn’t my hand, apologized, and begged for forgiveness from everyone.
Now, I’m absolutely certain I don’t want to go through with the official wedding in September. But my parents won’t listen-they say we’re already legally registered, so I can’t back out. Her parents don’t want to call it off either; they just want her out of the house because she’s causing them endless trouble. Everyone’s telling me we’re “stuck” and that there’s no easy way to end this.
I barely know her; we hardly talk, and it’s been a long distance nightmare from day one. I seriously suspect she’s got some mental health issues, and I feel like I’m losing my sanity. She picks fights over everything, and I have zero peace left in my life. I even spoke to a few divorce lawyers, but they all say I’d have to live with her for a year before I could get a divorce. I’m at my wit’s end. What should I do? Any advice?