I am in a relationship with a guy who has been so caring, understanding, and respectful for the past 7 months. We were in a long distance relationship the whole time because we both lived in different countries due to work. After a long wait of 7 months, we were finally going to meet here in India. We were both so excited. But the day he landed in India, he started replying late to my texts and didn’t respond to my calls. He kept saying that he was with family and had some meetings to attend, so he couldn’t talk.
Around that time, I went through a rough patch as my mother had an accident and my grandmother was in critical condition. I was so scared. I texted him about what had happened to my family and how I was feeling so low. For 7 to 8 days, he still didn’t reply to any of my messages or calls. After about 10 days, he sent me a text in a very formal tone, as if conveying a message to a stranger.
“My grandmother passed away a few days back. I do not want to talk. You take care. Bye.” I felt so bad for him. I wanted to talk to him so badly and share his pain, but he never replied. This continued for another 10 days, with no messages or calls from his side. Then, I received another formal message: “My father passed away a few days back. I am processing what’s happening in my life. I don’t want to talk to you.” I cried while reading his message. I replied, “I understand your pain. I am always with you.
I am ready to wait and listen to you whenever you are ready. Just let me know if you need me.” Some more days passed, and I waited for him. I texted him to check up on him. He replied with just one line: “We are in a relationship, but I am not feeling anything right now. You take care of yourself, Bye.”
It has been more than a month now, and he has never reached out to me or responded to my messages or calls. I am so confused about my position in his life. I do care for him and want to be with him, but he clearly said that he doesn’t want me. What should I do?