Two years back, I got married to a man through a matrimonial site. Initially, the whole family looked too good to be true. Later, they demanded a dowry of 15 lakhs, saying they would buy my jewelry. Just after the marriage, all the torture started with my *grih pravesh*. They abused my parents, didn’t give me enough food forget about fruits and other things. My MIL tried to physically harm me by banging the fridge door on my face with full force. My reflexes saved me.
The same happened with the cupboard. I was not allowed to enter the kitchen alone. She used to hide oil and sugar from me. My husband did the same on our honeymoon. My MIL used to control when I would shampoo my hair. On the third night, my husband asked about my bank account balance. My MIL asked for my entire salary. One very weird thing I observed in all of them was that their hands would start shaking or they would snatch money or gifts.
They are pathological liars. After one month of marriage, I got to know that my husband is a Canadian citizen, whereas they told us he was on PR. Soon after the wedding, from the third day itself, he started giving me divorce threats. Two months after the wedding, he left for Canada. I moved to another city as I work in IT. They were constantly asking me for my gold jewelry, which I denied, as I no longer had any trust in them. They harassed my father as well. On WhatsApp, my husband threatened me to give him my jewelry.
Last June, he came for a family meeting. We both agreed to give our marriage a chance, but he had already filed for divorce, which he hid from me. After I went to my matrimonial home this time, he was giving me death threats, and one gas accident also happened. The gas was left on apparently, in that meeting, my husband’s uncle told me to handle the kitchen so they couldn’t starve me. She literally snatched food from my hands.
I have one 42 years old SIL who is schizophrenic. They planned an accident for me, but God was on my side. They attacked me when I found out about the divorce, attempting to destroy my phone, which had the proof. I had to call the police and escape. My MIL is not at all scared of the police. What is this? What just happened to me? I loved my husband. He was cheating on me with multiple women. They are huge gas lighters.
Question: Why are they like that? Because of gaslighting, I feel like I am going mad.
Option 1: They are normal and I am the one who is wrong.
Option 2: They are abnormal.