I’m a foreigner who fell deeply in love with an Indian guy a Brahmin who’s 10 years older than me . We met on Instagram and have been together for six years now. He loves me deeply and always calls me “my wife,” “my life,” and “my jaan”. He’s kind, has never cheated, and makes me feel secure and cherished We video call every day, and he’s always made time for me I truly feel he’s *the one* .
But here’s the problem: His family’s against our relationship. Since he’s Indian and I’m not, they’ve pressured him repeatedly, even arranging marriages for him, but he’s refused every time, saying he only wants to marry me. He assured me not to worry and promised we’d find a way. This year, we decided to meet in person and finally tell our families He went back to his village to break the news to his family. And then…everything changed. His family lost it.
They told him that if he marries me, he’ll bring shame to them, ruin his nieces’ futures, and lose them forever. He was devastated, torn between me and his family. He cried and asked me what to do because he doesn’t want to lose either. But ever since his family found out, things haven’t been the same. They’ve already fixed his marriage for this November He hasn’t outright told me to leave, but I can feel it Our conversations have changed, and there’s a distance now that wasn’t there before
We’ve tried not talking for a week, but I end up crying every day, missing him. He’s my first love, my everything, and it hurts like hell One night, I messaged him, and we talked told him I couldn’t keep going like this and that I just want him to be happy. I even asked if he wanted me to wait for him, that I would wait as long as it takes. But he said he doesn’t want me waiting.
He wants us to stay in touch, to make sure I’m okay, but with his arranged marriage looming over us, I feel like my heart’s breaking every day. I can’t bring myself to cut him off, yet I can’t bear the thought of him with someone else. I’m asking you, the readers, especially those who are Indians does the caste system really matter more than love? Is there a chance for us, even if it’s not now? Should I hold onto him, even though I know our relationship’s broken?
caste in this generation is still haunting some people. if u guys love each other and cannot live without each other. better get married leaving the family and others. what happiness will it bring if he gets married to another woman..and what happiness will it bring to u if u distance urself.
talk and make a decision. either get married or cut ur rltn so u won’t get hurt more