I’m a 25 years old woman married to a drunkard, and we’re about to get divorced in a year or two. My parents are so toxic that I can’t share anything with them, so I confided in my male friend (25M). Later, he asked me to be his friend with benefits partner. I agreed because I wanted to experience that, and it was him l wouldn’t have agreed otherwise. I developed feelings for him and shared them with him.
He started behaving coldly and treating me badly, but we continued being intimate. After a few months, he confessed he had been in a relationship while involved with me. I forgave him. Later, he proposed a casual relationship, and despite my lingering feelings, I agreed. His cold behavior improved, and he started treating me better. Whenever I asked about his future plans, he said he wanted to marry me, look after my child, and even move abroad if our parents didn’t approve. I was happy with that.
However, our physical relationship wasn’t successful, and he blamed me for it. He also started having sex chats with other girls, which I discovered. He planned to meet one of them and have sex, which made me extremely sad and caused me to cry a lot. He didn’t value me at all. A few weeks ago, he said he wanted to break up, citing that his parents wouldn’t allow our future together. I accepted, as I was already fed up with the relationship. Our friendship is now ruined, and I don’t know what to do. Should I continue being friends with him?
Prioritize your self respect. I am sure you will find much better guy who will care for your feelings too. Since you are so fixed on him, you are not able to see others who care for you. Take that leaf of faith. If you want, we can talk / chat anonymously about it.