I’ve been happily married for six years, with two kids and a husband who loves me more than anything. But everything changed when my friend visited us and randomly brought up my ex topic, Something my husband never knew about. He didn’t say anything at the time, so I didn’t think much of it. (Among our friends, we have an unspoken rule never to mention exes in front of our partners because we’ve seen how badly it can go. My friend knew this and still brought it up, despite all the effort we put into avoiding such situations).
Back in university, I was in a four-year relationship with a good-looking guy. We both knew we wouldn’t marry because of caste differences, so we broke up after graduation. But when my husband found out, he didn’t see it as a closed chapter. He just shut down. When I asked him why he was acting distant, he told me I had betrayed him and lied to him. I tried to explain that it was all in the past and didn’t concern him, but that only made him angrier. He didn’t argue he just walked out and came home late that night.
Since that day, he has completely withdrawn from me. He doesn’t eat at home, only speaks to the kids, and has suddenly taken up gardening-something he never cared about before. On weekends, he’s either with the kids, cooking for them, or outside with his plants. If I try to get close, he immediately leaves. I apologize every day, but he refuses to talk. He’s even distanced himself from his friends, going nowhere except the office. I can see he’s in depression, but I don’t know how to reach him. I considered involving our parents, but they don’t know about my ex, and I fear how that would escalate things.
Sometimes, I see him cry. But if I try to comfort him, he turns away or leaves the room. He’s only shown this side a few times in our marriage, and it scares me. I feel betrayed by my friend, hated by my husband, and even my kids seem distant because he’s so focused on them now. It’s been a month, and I don’t know what to do anymore. trying everything, but he just refuses to let me back into his life.