I got married to a 27 years old man from Mumbai, a software engineer, in an arranged marriage. Before the wedding, during our conversations, I asked him about his past relationships or any bad habits. He told me he had no bad habits and no past relationships he didn’t even have female friends. He claimed he had studied in an all boys school and never interacted with any girls in college. He also mentioned that he worked hard for a multinational company.
Later, I noticed the smell of cigarette smoke and ash in his car. A couple of times, I asked him about it, and he said his friends were the ones smoking in his car. Eventually, he admitted that he smokes and promised to quit soon, but he never did. Instead, he started blaming me for his smoking, saying I give him stress, which is why he smokes. Later on, I found out that he had been smoking since the 7th grade and was a chain smoker. After that, I discovered that he was also into drugs.
Whenever I tried to stop him, he would tell me that I had no right to do so. Very soon, he started verbally abusing me, and then it escalated to physical abuse as well. He would insult my family and fight with me if I visited them, took their calls, or informed them about my whereabouts. After a few months, I found chats on his phone with female escorts, as well as conversations with his friends about his ex girlfriends.
I also found chats and calls with shemale escorts, where he arranged for them to visit him, transferred money, and expressed excitement. When I confronted him, he physically and verbally abused me. It became common for him to pull my hair, scratch me, push me, insult me and my family, and demand money. He would also humiliate me in front of his family. His parents tried to brainwash me, telling me not to inform my family.
I also discovered that his older sister, who is still unmarried, was involved in his drug use. I saw chats between them where she had brought drugs for him. She used to hate me and feel jealous of me because I’m younger and, according to her, prettier, yet I got married while she remained single. Once, I left his house, and he didn’t come to take me back. He said I should come back on my own or he would pick me up from my office.
Eventually, he and his family came to get me, promising that he would change and never raise his hand against me again. But within ten days, it happened again. This time, I called the police for help because his family had taken my phone, wouldn’t let me contact my family, and kept trying to convince me to give him another chance, saying he would change. But I couldn’t believe them anymore. I was sure that if I stayed, I would die, and that his family would help him get away with it.
I was exhausted from the emotional, mental, and physical abuse, as well as the isolation and gaslighting. I did everything I could to save the marriage. Since that day, I haven’t gone back, and they haven’t apologized. They kept all my belongings and jewelry and filed a false complaint against me and my family. Now, as I speak to his friends, I’m learning more his previous engagement was broken, he has been involved with escorts and drugs for a long time, he lived with a girl in Pune, and he had been visiting shemale escorts even before our marriage. I have filed a complaint against him and his entire family. They are out on bail.