I belong to a toxic family in Bangalore, where my parents fight every day, abuse each other, and even physically harm their children. This happens because my father is an alcoholic and does not contribute a single penny to the family. Many times, we don’t even have food to eat. Due to my father’s behavior, my mother also became unfaithful and started having affairs with other men.
Neither of my parents care about their children, and we have no relatives with whom we have a good relationship. We are three sisters. My elder sister completed her B.Tech from a college, and I studied at the same college as well. My father only paid the college fees, but I didn’t even have money for food. Whenever I went home on weekends, there was no food, just fights and beatings from my parents.
I had a boyfriend in college, but he refused to marry me. After college, my situation got even worse because my elder sister had a love marriage, and because of that, I stopped receiving marriage proposals. My parents never looked for a groom for me either. Later, I received a marriage proposal from a man who lied about being rich and promised to take good care of me. My parents forcefully got me married at the age of 26.
After marriage, my mother-in-law taunted me daily, saying that my parents didn’t give anything in the wedding. One day, an argument broke out between me and my husband, and he slapped me so hard that my earring broke. I didn’t eat anything for two days and kept crying because the dream I had of marrying into a good family was shattered-I had ended up in a family just like my parents’.
After that, I started facing serious health issues. I left my husband and returned to my parents’ house, eventually getting a divorce. For four years, I kept going in and out of hospitals. I was in the ICU for 20 days, and I barely survived. Now, at the age of 31, I want to start fresh. That’s why I have started searching for a job again and also looking for a partner.
However, I am struggling to get a job due to a four-year gap, and the men I meet are only interested in a physical relationship-they are not serious about marriage. I am exhausted from living in this toxic family, and I am searching for a partner on my own.
Will I ever find a man who is willing to do a court marriage with me? Because my parents won’t be involved at all. I haven’t been able to get a job for the past year. I have no support, and my family exists only in name. Will any man want to marry me in this situation?
None of the men I’ve met so far are serious about marriage. Should I get married again, or should I just focus on finding a job? I want to get away from this family because they don’t care whether I live or die.
Question: Should I search for a guy to marry?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No
Option 3: Stay single forever